For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks… the work for which all other work is but preparation.
— Rainer Maria Rilke

Couple Counseling

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A large part of my practice is working with couples.  I think this work is particularly meaningful, as it gets to the heart of our ability to love and be loved.  As the quote by Rilke says so well, this may be our most fundamental work.  Couple therapy goes right to the center of this.  I think there is no better way to bring us to edge of ourselves, to help us meet those places in ourselves that keep us stuck and unfulfilled, than the work of deepening our experience of relationship with our significant other.  

 Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, or "EFT"

     In my work with couples, I work primarily from a model called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (often referred to simply as “EFT”).  What I love about this model, simply put, is that it works.  EFT has been well researched and has been demonstrated to be very effective with couples to facilitate lasting change.  My experience of it is that it helps us really see and understand the patterns that occur in relationship with our partner that can become so difficult, and have typically lead us to relate in ways that have become either distant and/or highly conflictual.  I have found EFT to be very effective in helping us to find ways of shifting these patterns and bringing us back to an experience of greater closeness.  You can read more about EFT at: